Getting married three times to the same partner signifies joy and commitment.

Technically, I’ve been married three times.

An Intimate Vow Renewal Ceremony in Honor of the Tomacchio’s Love

There was no divorce, no heartbreak, no new partner. Just one marriage, renewed, and a shared belief that love is reason enough to gather beautifully and celebrate often.

The first wedding was impulsive. After six years of dating, we decided we were done waiting. On the steps of a New Hampshire city hall one Thursday afternoon after work, we exchanged rings with only our parents present. There were no invitations, no advance warning, just a simple text asking friends if they wanted to meet for drinks.

Later, tucked into a seaside bar, our wedding night unfolded over briny oysters, ice-cold martinis and seashell-shaped fine chocolates. It was deliciously unplanned and lacking all the traditional pomp and circumstance; perfect for who we were at 27.

The First Renewal

Exactly one year later, “I do” became spectacle as we renewed our vows for our one-year wedding anniversary. In Las Vegas, 50 friends and family joined us for a 10-day celebration steeped in Roaring Twenties glamour: gilded decor, velvet drapes, jazz bands and nights that stretched longer than our stamina allowed. It was over-the-top, theatrical and entirely unforgettable. That night, we looked at each other and said, “Wouldn’t it be so fun to do this again?” And just like that, the idea was born: we would renew often and revel in all the ways we’d grown together.

One More Promise

By April 2025, our renewal in Pittsburgh carried a different weight. With a decade of marriage behind us and three little children at home, the celebration became a reflection not just of our love, but of the life we’d built. We wanted something romantic without being fussy, meaningful without being heavy and intentional in every detail. Of utmost importance was the food and drink, given our backgrounds in hospitality.

With the help of Wanderlust Weddings and Events, one of the many event planners in Pittsburgh, and an incredible team of Pittsburgh vendors, that vision came to life. It mattered to us that we honored our past celebrations, but in ways that felt fresh and allowed us to shed pieces we’d outgrown, while keeping what still resonated. The planning itself became part of the ritual: a rehearsal in intentional love.

Intimacy at Its Finest

This time, the celebration was intentionally private. Early in the process, my husband Anthony admitted his least favorite part of our Vegas ceremony had been the crowd. “I barely got a moment alone with you,” he said. We realized that a performance wasn’t the point.

We chose to keep both the ceremony and dinner entirely private. No guests, no audience, only us, and the wedding staff who brought the evening to life. The beauty was in creating moments that belonged only to us. We exchanged vows on The Grand Staircase of the Allegheny County Courthouse, its Romanesque Revival architecture glowing under soft candlelight, cloaked in lush spring florals expertly arranged by Gold Dust Floral, who also did the wedding of Sarah Thomas and Tyler Haak. Magnolias were deliberately woven into the arrangements, the namesake of our youngest child. Subtle details nodded to the past: borrowed lines from our original vows, the familiar palette of blush, mauve, gold, and cream. The date even coincided with the 100th anniversary of The Great Gatsby, the original theme of our Vegas wedding. It felt less like repetition and more like continuity.

I wore a delicate blush chiffon ballgown embroidered with spring florals, while Anthony wore a pink linen suit, a quiet wink to Gatsby himself courtesy of the bridal and suit shops across Pittsburgh.

Making the Vow Renewal a Party

Dinner followed at our favorite Pittsburgh restaurant, The Vandal. With the space closed for the night, we shared a single booth, candlelight glowing low as courses arrived one by one. Oysters, of course, another breadcrumb from the past. We talked, laughed, reflected and let the meaning of the day settle in without distraction, truly savoring every moment.

Later, 40 friends joined us for an incredible celebration. Lights dimmed and a disco ball sparkling in the corner, the space was reborn as a dance floor. Small plates circulated, and late-night burgers and fries grounded the glamour. A millennial playlist curated by DJ Cake had us sweating within minutes, and karaoke microphones made the rounds, coaxing out everyone’s inner party animal. It was joyful and unpretentious, and proof that intimacy and excitement can coexist beautifully.

The night ended the same way it had in Vegas years earlier: sitting on a curb in our wedding attire, feeding each other pizza and toasting with champagne. This time, the champagne was non-alcoholic, a quiet reflection of how much we’ve grown, and a reminder that the rituals still matter, even as the details evolve.

Saying “I do” three times might seem whimsical. But for us, it is an art — one that deepens with time and intention. As our friend who officiated said with a smile, she’ll see us again in another 10 years. Because we may not know where life will take us, but we know we’ll always be together, celebrating.

Pittsburgh Businesses Who Made it Possible

• Planning & Design: Wanderlust Weddings & Events
• Floral & Candles: Gold Dust Floral 
• First Look: Kimpton Hotel Monaco / The Commoner 
• Ceremony Venue: Allegheny County Courthouse
• Party Venue / Food & Beverage: The Vandal
• Cake: The Butterwood Bake Consortium  
• Music & Lighting: DJ Cake / The Event Lab  
• Favors: The couple gifted their guests complimentary tiny tattoos, which were performed throughout the event by Kult.

• Officiant: Alexandra Meier  
• Event Stationary: Zazzle  
• Photography: Rachel Rowland Photography 
• His Suit: Michael Kors  
• His Shoes: Cole Haan 
• Her Dress and Accessories: Amazon    
• The Couple: Anthony and Katrina Tomacchio 

Story by Katrina Tomacchio
Photos Courtesy of Rachel Rowland Photography

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